I am 32 weeks pregnant with my second child, which for me is basically starting over again, since my older daughter is almost 6 and I wasn't planning to have any other kids. I remember very little from her pregnancy, and my focus for her was to have her, to have a baby. This time, I don't work, I wasn't planning for another baby, and I in general feel differently about a lot of different aspects about life and family, which have given me a lot of time and interest in what is going on during the pregnancy itself. The time is going so fast with this one, and with my first it went soooo slowly and I never thought the day would come that I would meet her; with this one, I am of course excited to meet her, but I so hope that she makes it the full 40 weeks inside of me and that I can be brave and have much closer to a natural birth. I also plan to breastfeed this time, whereas last time I did not think that was really a viable option with work and the sort of job I had. I didn't want to put to much stress on myself, and I don't regret my decision because times changes and as long as you reevaluate as circumstances change you can't feel bad about what you are doing.
Anyway, I watched The Business of Being Born this morning, and I thought I would be weirded out by the whole home-birth thing, but I can really see why people would choose that route. Hospitals can be so stressful and especially now, healthcare and health insurance has become such a nightmare that it is hard to keep it out of the direct patient relationship, which is a tragedy. Why can't that pain be kept at the administrative level? Even the doctors admit they tend to be quick to recommend C-section even though it may not be absolutely necessary. I wouldn't want to have one unless there really is no other option, and I absolutely hope that it won't come to that for me. It's not a bad thing, it's just not necessary. That there is even such a thing as planning an early pull to mitigate stretch marks is kind of sad...this is a lifestyle, motherhood, not one thing that happens and then is over. Go with the flow. Do a little homework. I still have so much homework to do, so I am not even trying to claim that I know anything. I have just noticed that a lot of things I thought I had a handle on, I really was just ignoring a lot of information I wasn't ready to process.
Friday, May 17, 2013
Monday, April 22, 2013
Bridezillas and the thoughts that show brings to mind
So I have been watching Season 7 of Bridezillas and it has really got me thinking...I'll just number them out and see where it goes.
1. How do these men put up with these temper tantrums? I know it gets stressful right before the wedding, but when you are screaming and throwing things about every little hiccup, it probably isn't the first time you've exhibited those behaviors.
2. How are these unemployed people having these crazy big weddings? Clearly money does appear out of thin air. I have a few friends who have married at the courthouse and saved for the dream wedding at a later date, which would seem like the better solution.
3. One episode showed a woman show up three hours late to her bridal party with no remorse, along with an hour late to rehearsal and an hour and a half late to walk down the aisle. I hope she one day realizes how ashamed she should feel about wasting other people's time like that. Your time is as important as anyone else's time, and the only reason someone should wait on you is because you are PAYING them to do so.
4. If you don't get along with your family normally, why put them in your bridal party? This seems to be a recurring theme and I don't get it. If they are too much for you to even have over to dinner occasionally, why do you suddenly think everything is going to be great on such a day as your wedding?
5. I have one daughter, and another on the way, and with the cost of college, etc...I hope they don't get married until they are AT LEAST 30. No way I can save up enough before then!
6. The seating chart for the reception -- why?? The stress that every single bride has had over putting people in seats leads me to think, why even bother. If there was a seating chart at my reception, someone else did it or I completely blocked it from my memory. Let people sit where they want, dang! When did everyone who RSVP'd show up? I have never heard of that happening, so people end up moving around anyway.
7. The jealousy, particularly over the bachelor party...ugh, if you are still stupid jealous how do you feel secure about getting married? You should want other women to find your man desirable, but treat your man so good, that he isn't interested in doing anything inappropriate with anyone else. Get over it, especially because of what you were doing at your bachelorette party!
What do you think? Maybe it's all just overacting for TV, but I think my husband wouldn't have even put up with that; reality TV just isn't THAT lucrative of a deal. But, I am still watching it so it must have the right combo of entertainment for me (and others) to get it to seven seasons.
1. How do these men put up with these temper tantrums? I know it gets stressful right before the wedding, but when you are screaming and throwing things about every little hiccup, it probably isn't the first time you've exhibited those behaviors.
2. How are these unemployed people having these crazy big weddings? Clearly money does appear out of thin air. I have a few friends who have married at the courthouse and saved for the dream wedding at a later date, which would seem like the better solution.
3. One episode showed a woman show up three hours late to her bridal party with no remorse, along with an hour late to rehearsal and an hour and a half late to walk down the aisle. I hope she one day realizes how ashamed she should feel about wasting other people's time like that. Your time is as important as anyone else's time, and the only reason someone should wait on you is because you are PAYING them to do so.
4. If you don't get along with your family normally, why put them in your bridal party? This seems to be a recurring theme and I don't get it. If they are too much for you to even have over to dinner occasionally, why do you suddenly think everything is going to be great on such a day as your wedding?
5. I have one daughter, and another on the way, and with the cost of college, etc...I hope they don't get married until they are AT LEAST 30. No way I can save up enough before then!
6. The seating chart for the reception -- why?? The stress that every single bride has had over putting people in seats leads me to think, why even bother. If there was a seating chart at my reception, someone else did it or I completely blocked it from my memory. Let people sit where they want, dang! When did everyone who RSVP'd show up? I have never heard of that happening, so people end up moving around anyway.
7. The jealousy, particularly over the bachelor party...ugh, if you are still stupid jealous how do you feel secure about getting married? You should want other women to find your man desirable, but treat your man so good, that he isn't interested in doing anything inappropriate with anyone else. Get over it, especially because of what you were doing at your bachelorette party!
What do you think? Maybe it's all just overacting for TV, but I think my husband wouldn't have even put up with that; reality TV just isn't THAT lucrative of a deal. But, I am still watching it so it must have the right combo of entertainment for me (and others) to get it to seven seasons.
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